An Indescribable Faith
Faith is believing in the things that you cannot see, trusting in something that is not tangible. Peace is freedom from disquieting or oppressive emotions or thoughts. We are taught in God's word to have faith. We should pray for the faith even the size of a mustard seed. How are we to believe in and have faith in something that we cannot see or touch? How do we know if our faith is real? Do you have faith? Faith in what? Faith in God is what I am speaking of here. Faith that carries you through the toughest and rawest of times packing a strength that allows you to have peace in the midst of a category five hurricane. If you have been following my stories at all you will know by now that my life has not been without excitement. My faith is in God, my Lord Jesus Christ. People have asked me if I have this same faith during bad times. They have asked me how I know that it is faith that is carrying me through these times. I will share with you how I know.
It was the year 2002 and my husband and I had been married a little over a year. Nichole was eight years old. I was told I would never be able to have children. I already had one, God is amazing. We were not planning on adding to the family just yet, however, I was pregnant. Nichole was born when I was nineteen years old on December 19, 1994, before I had married. Nichole is a responsible, funny, and independent young lady. She has a love and respect for God and she shares her faith openly with her friends. I had prayed for my husband before I even knew him. I prayed that the Lord would prepare me for him also. This is another story in itself. This took an amount of faith that I cannot describe. All I can tell you is that I knew God had someone in mind for me. My husband and I met when my daughter was five years old. When he proposed to me on Valentine's Day, he also “proposed” to Nichole. He asked her if he could be her dad. He legally adopted her and is the only true father she has ever known. This has been another great testimony in my life and Nichole's. So, back to this pregnancy that was not supposed to be. Even though we had not planned to have a child at the time, nothing but excitement and joy filled our hearts when we found out. I still did not “feel” pregnant by the sixth week as I was not showing. I assumed I was just lucky in not being affected by the morning sickness. At this, I was absolutely ecstatic. By week nine I had gained a couple of pounds. I was very tired. This was a good sign, and thank goodness still no morning sickness. Things were beginning to change a little bit, my tummy was growing slightly as well as my chest. This happens when you get pregnant for those of you who do not know. I made it passed week twelve, yea! I was scheduled for an ultra sound at sixteen weeks. We were anxiously waiting to see the child that God had created and find out if we were having a boy or a girl. We brought Nichole to the appointment. The technician began the ultrasound along with copying it to our video tape. Back then it was a VHS tape. Not very long into it she had a cold, blank look on her face. She kept looking at the screen, at me, then at the screen. She stopped the tape I noticed. I was looking at the screen. I saw it on her face. I felt it deep in my throat. Threatening tears began swelling over my lids. My heart began racing and my throat began to close. I couldn't breathe. My husband looked nervous. The technician told us the news. The “fetus” had stopped growing at six weeks. For some reason however, my body was still reacting as if the pregnancy was still going well. There was no heart beat. Nichole began sobbing. I went into an asthma attack. We were brought into another room and waited to speak with the doctor. We had two options. I could wait for the “fetus” to “abort” itself, or I could have a D&C, which is where they remove the “fetal matter”. I put the word fetal in quotes because that is how the staff referred to our baby. Our child had a heart beat and a soul. How do I know that? I know that because our child made it to six weeks gestation. A babies heart starts beating by five weeks. How do I know this for sure? I know this for sure because for one, I heard Nichole's heart beat at five weeks, and two, I heard this baby's heart beat at four and a half weeks. That was not a fetus or fetal matter. That was our child. We went forth with the D&C. I wept for about a day or so. I mourned. My husband mourned. Nichole mourned. I still remember that day like it was yesterday. Two days later I felt God speaking to my heart. I felt God's calming spirit letting me know that our child was safe in heaven with Him. I had come across Psalm 30:5 “For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favor is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning”.
Peaceful assurance overflowed within me. Unexplainable peace reverberated throughout my inner being. I cannot explain fully the weight that was lifted as God spoke to me through that verse. I immediately felt that it was okay for me to have wept and felt sorrow and pain. It was also understood that peace and joy would take the place of the pain and sorrow. I began to understand that my God was such a loving God and He had a reason for our child going home to Heaven earlier than we had expected. I was at total peace with that. I had faith that my Father was and is watching over our child. He has carried me through that very difficult time and has allowed me to use that experience to share my relationship and faith in Him with others. The peace I felt was an indescribable faith in God and His love for my child and me.
I had to go through a physical recovery period as well. That lasted about six weeks. I had gotten pregnant again about six months later. Again, we were excited, yet on guard. Somehow, I felt that there was an underlying issue that may be keeping me from holding the pregnancies. Mind you, the doctors told me I would never be able to have children due to endometriosis. What do they know? I had Nichole. I got pregnant after Nichole. This time, I was conscientiously distancing myself until I saw the ultrasound. I had a horrible doctor at the time and went in for my first appointment. I had told him about the miscarriage. He did not seem very concerned. He did not take any steps of urgency or precaution. We heard the baby's heart beat at the six week appointment. I was not scheduled again until twelve weeks. I did not need that appointment. Around eight weeks I had a miscarriage. This would happen a third time. I ended up doing some research and found that Lupus and various other auto-immune diseases could cause multiple miscarriages. I pressed my doctor, a new one, to test me for this. I actually had some similar symptoms as well, so I brought in my list. When I met with the doctor the first thing he told me was I was depressed. He told me that anybody who brings in a list most often is depressed. I did not care. “Fine”, I told him. “But I still want you to test me for Lupus and these other possible diseases”, I told him. He reluctantly and adamantly he did so with an arrogant tone. Three days later his office called me back in. I did not test positive for Lupus, but I did test positive for auto-nuclear antibodies. I was referred to a Rheumatologist. I have been with one ever since. I also changed doctors. He never did apologize. I got pregnant again. This time I was assigned to a Perinatologist who would oversee my pregnancy. I remember driving on my way to my first appointment and praying out loud in the car. I was listening to Hill Song Hymns singing There's Power in the Blood. I was singing it, praying it, and believing it. I had an overwhelming feeling that I was going to hear this child's heart beat. I also had an overwhelming peace and faith that this child was going to be born, and born healthy. I had sonograms every month and they monitored me and the pregnancy very closely. Along with taking a baby aspirin daily I was put on restrictions, not allowed to work out or lift more than five pounds, etc. Early on, they found several hot spots on the baby's heart and excessive fluid in the placenta. As the end of the pregnancy neared I was having sonograms weekly. The fluid levels got so high and oxygen levels in the placenta so low, they admitted me for delivery at 36 weeks. Instinctively I knew this and had brought my bags with me. My husband was in basic training at the time and could not be there for the birth of his first son. My sister-n-law, Beth Saladino was my labor coach for the second time. My mother and mother-n-law were also there. Robert Anthony was born on February 25. 2005. He is a healthy young boy with a contagious love for God. God provided me with an indescribable faith throughout this entire pregnancy. Somehow He let me know that everything was going to be okay.
This indescribable faith carried through to my next pregnancy with Lena Mary. This one also required an aspirin a day, frequent visits to specialized doctors, and many sonograms. Hot spots showed up on her heart as well, fluid levels were low, however, I did not get induced on an emergency basis. I went to labor on my own the day I was scheduled to be induced. During delivery, her heart rate dramatically dropped as did mine. About ten doctors and nurses ran in and talked of an emergency C-section. The nurses injected a needle in my stomach to stop the labor allowing our heart rates to recover and if they did not, we would go in for the C-section. God stepped in and Lena's heart rate recovered. Lena Mary joined our family on May 16, 2005. She suffered a kidney infection and multiple febrile seizures at ten months of age that hospitalized her for four days. She underwent a spinal tap and various other harsh tests, all while my husband was on mission. but God is faithful. God carried me through and allowed me to have an indescribable faith while treading through treacherous territory. Lena also has a fervent love for Jesus.
Caroline Rose brought on eight months of non-stop morning sickness and nausea that I gladly accepted as proof that the pregnancy was going well. Same scenario for the doctors, visits, and aspirin Caroline Rose joined us on March 20, 2007. We were in the hospital for four days, they had found a heart murmur. Apparently a pretty common thing. She has now been diagnosed with a pulmonary stenosis that is monitored annually. She is as vibrant, strong, happy, and healthy as can be. She tries very hard to keep up with her three siblings. To this day Caroline Rose has suffered a fractured skull from pulling a Christmas tree down on top of herself and a spiral fracture to her tibia from jumping, or being pushed, off of her brothers bed. She is not even three yet. Being a mother of this child requires an indescribable faith.
Saying good-bye to my husband on a daily basis, I do not know for sure if he is going to work around the corner, or around the world. When we say good-bye I do not know if it is the last time he will wrap his arms around me or if we will hold each other again. When he calls me from overseas and I hear his lovely voice, I do not know if I will get to hear his comforting words or if they will be a forced memory. When my husband goes on mission, whether he returns the same man or physically transformed from combat wounds are beyond my knowledge. My God carries me. He provides an indescribable faith that allows me to push on with confidence. Every night that I kiss my children good-night, put them on a bus, or drop them off at school under another person's care I do not know if that is the last time I will kiss them. Every time I have a medical procedure and am put under anesthetic, I am not certain I will wake up and see my family. Trusting that my children will be well taken care of and provided for rests in my peace and faith in God. Every detail of my life is uncertain. Clinging to the promises that I have in spending eternity with my heavenly Father when I leave this world provide me with an indescribable faith that I wish I could put into words. The only way I know to put it is the peace I have is an indescribable faith. A faith that can only be found in the Lord Jesus Christ. May God bless you and may God bless America.